.Dear Jilda
I am a recently divorced 34 yr old woman. I have a 4 yr old daughter. I would love to start dating again but am scared of the impact it my have on my daughter. How do I make this dating thing a natural transition in my daughter’s life?
Courtney, Santa Monica, Ca
Hi Courtney,
I am so glad you are considering your daughter’s thoughts and feelings during this process.I have a daughter and also several friends in your current position. If it were me, my daughter would come first. Meet your dates away from the home for at least 4 to 5 months.If all is going smoothly and you both agree to take it to another level you can reconsider the situation? Never leave your daughter alone with a new man.Alway’s be aware of her comfort level around your relationship. Be prepared to take it slowly. When a child is involved there is a lot more to analyze and consider. It’s not all about you anymore.
Good luck
Jilda
Dear Jilda
I have always thought of myself as a very handsome, successful and charming kind of guy. This year I am turning 42 and starting to think about my future. I recently relocated to the Beverly Hills area from NYC. What a culture shock! There are many beautiful women in my life but I feel they lack sincerity and sense of self? I am not willing to settle but would like to find a companion. Any suggestions on how to eliminate the want to be’s and find a real woman?
Michael, Manhattan
Michael, Michael, Michael
I think who you meet is a direct reflection on where you socialize. I am constantly hearing my single friends whining that they never meet anyone normal or sincere. My advice is. If you want to meet a cook go to a cooking glass, not a club. If you want to meet an athletic educated type get involved in a social sport such as tennis or go hiking in the canyons, not a Hollywood party. Let’s face it, you know the saying. If you sleep with dog’s you get flees. If you marry a queen.. you become a king. Get it?
Hope this helps!
Jilda