Ask Jilda
I am a 42 year old man. I have never been married and live with my two best friends. My best friends are my dogs. I have a beautiful dobie and a white sheep dog . Women seem to find me very attractive and pretend to love my dogs at first but sooner or later I catch them mistreating my best friends and I end the relationship. Do you think I am being unforgiving? Maybe I am a little overly sensitive when it comes to my little family but isn’t there any woman out there who can be as attentive and loving to my dogs as me? Let me know what you think. I will never abandon my best friends.
Jake
Hi Jake,
First of all, I have 3 dogs, 2 turtles and an African Grey parrot. I can relate to loving my animals but I need human interaction as well. It sounds to me as though you prioritize your pets over everything.I have a feeling these woman are attracted to you and want to be in your life but you make it crystal clear they will have to share you with your dogs. I’m thinking when they come over you are more affectionate and attentive to the dogs than them. Am I right? A woman needs to feel special. It you continue to make it clear that you are more devoted to the dogs they will eventually leave you. I would. My advice to you is to try and make a place for everyone who you find to be special in your life. This place has to be comfortable for all involved. You should address the issue up front. Let them know you are very close to your animals and see how they feel. Don’t waste your time on a non animal lover and make sure you share the love.
Good luck
Jilda
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My life is a mess! I have been dating the same girl for a year and about 3 months.We have since professed our love and I thought we were living happily ever after. Last week she had to leave town for business. I guess you could say I was snooping but I live here too. During my adventure I found a pink journal. I probably shouldn’t have read it but I did. Now It has ruined my life and I don’t know what to do. Hope you can help.The journal had several pages dedicated to her ex. She said she still had feelings for him and that she couldn’t forget the way he made love to her. Our sex life has always been good.This makes me doubt our whole relationship. Was it ever real or am I a rebound? He cheated on her and I knew she was hurt pretty bad.Shoud I confront her? Should we break up? I’m very confused.
Justin
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Have you ever had someone wine and dine you for months,fly you all over the world, tell you they love you, then dump you? I just did. Please explain this to me. Do successful men find it so easy to do this just to get laid? Why? Why? Why? I would rather have some version of the truth. I still would have slept with him but not gotten so emotionally involved. Help me to understand this level of disrespect and betrayal.I know they say learn from your mistakes but I would not have seen this coming. I feel completely scammed for sex?
Lisa in pain
Hi Lisa,
Sorry to hear you are in pain over some insincere, inconsiderate, insecure guy. Take nothing personal here. A person who is that oblivious to someones feelings has extreme issues of their own. You dodged that bullet. This person is clearly in pain himself and doesn’t feel guilty for hurting anyone else because he is hurting. Someone must have done a number on him. Whether it started in his childhood or adult life, it sounds to me that he is able to detach from his actions very easily. That is a good indication someone was able to do the same to him and he never got over it...or therapy? These particular circumstances tend to breed this type of behavior. I hope this helps you to understand why there are plenty of people out there blazing through life trying to fix what someone has broken....
Sad but true
Jilda